Sharing the Worry

One habit Richard and I got into when I was at my worst was to share the worry. Some days I was so laden with worry -- What if I can't get an appointment with the one specialist who can cure me? What if I have to wait three months to see her? What if she winds up letting me down too? What if the new meds undo whatever slim good the old meds were providing? What if I'm in too much pain to make it to my niece's graduation celebration next year? What if... what if... what if...???

A wise person once said to me, "Don't worry twice." Don't pre-worry about a set of circumstances that live in the future. Good advice....but...

Sometimes worrying was the most energetic I could be. Worrying kept me tethered to the possibility of some other reality, one in which I didn't suffer, in which I didn't have to watch Richard flail, helpless to make me better.

Sometimes worrying was the only lifeline I could muster. You know what I mean?

But sometime worrying became too encompassing, too heavy. It flattened me.

Those were the times when Richard would step in and ask me if he could carry some of my worry load. "What can you let go of, even for an hour?" he would ask. There was always something. I pretended to put it on the table, and he pretended to pick it up. Sometimes, you are what you pretend to be, and this little scenario would often make me feel a bit lighter. On more enlightened days, I would realize that if I could let go of one worry, why not two, five, all of them. As long as Richard was safeguarding them for me and could return them upon request, I could let them go.

What do you do with your worries - as ill or as well partner? Do you protect your partner from them? Do you share them? Do they overwhelm you quietly? Do you release them?

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  Follow my natural cures blog. If you are  interested in alternative healing, or anything to do with natural ways  of curing illness and disease then we must share our ideas and thoughts. I will follow your blog if you will follow mine. I have always been interested in natural treatment and I feel sure that one day there will be a natural way of curing such diseases as cancer and heart disease. I have just bought a book which sounds very interesting. Natural ways of dealing with chronic pain.        

 

Can Sprirulina help to cure the HIV virus

 

Spirulina is an antioxidant and provides some anti-inflammatory properties. It contains all 22 essential amino acids. A research done found that Spirulina could
 protect, against allergies such as hey fever, reduce blood cholesterol levels, has health benefits against HIV, and could protect against cancer. This is a very interesting claim. See the full article here.

Celery seeds may lower blood pressure and cholesterol

Ayurvedic medicine used celery seed to treat colds, flu, water retention, poor digestion, various types of arthritis, and certain diseases of the liver and spleen. Celery seeds where tested on animals and it was found that celery could reduce blood pressure and cholesterol levels, as well as protecting the liver from damage, but researchers don't know weather this would be true in people.


In humans researchers have found that a diet rich in lutein, which is found in celery where less likely to develop colorectol cancer. Celery seed is available online, at Holland and Barrett, and other good health food shops.

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Dont skip breakfast

Some people skip breakfast because they think it will help them lose weight but missing meals does not help us lose weight and it is not good for us, because we can miss out on essential vitamins, minerals and nutrients.

Research shows that eating breakfast can actually help people control their weight.


So why not go for a bowl of wholegrain cereal with sliced banana and a glass of fruit juice for a healthy start to the day?. Or you could try some porridge oats they are cheap and contain lots of vitamins, minerals and fibre. Make your porridge with semi-skimmed or skimmed milk or water.


If you add salt to your porridge, try to get out of the habit. You could add a few dried apricots, chucks of apple or some berries for extra flavor instead. 


This combined with a healthy exercise plan will keep you living for ever lol!

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Many of you probably read about or saw clips of Pat Robertson's recent foot-in-mouth episode. He recopmmended that a man who had been taking care of his wife who is ill with Alzheimer's think of her as the "walking dead" and get a divorce and find a new companion. Oh yes, and make sure his wife is getting good "custodial" care.

WHAT!!!!!! you may say.

Well here is what I and my colleague said in a recent op ed published in the Chicago Tribune:

Pat Robertson is dead wrong

By Barbara Kivowitz and Roanne Weisman

September 23, 2011

A person with Alzheimer's is not "kind of" dead. Not by a long shot. And televangelist Pat Robertson should know better than to speak flippantly from a position of authority on a matter that is complicated, nuanced and deeply personal.

As we learned through interviews with many couples, as well as with medical, spiritual, legal, rehabilitation and psychological experts, while writing "In Sickness As In Health: Helping Couples with the Complexities of Illness," couples find their way to deal with illnesses and catastrophic injuries.

We know what we are talking about when we say Robertson should beware of trying to make blanket statements without the benefit of knowing all the facts and issues. We have found that dealing with illness is a deeply intimate part of the couple relationship. What is right for one couple may be completely wrong for another.

When illness invades the couple relationship, partners ask themselves and each other some really hard questions: "What do I want to do for this person whom I have loved for many years?" "How much of my life do I give up to take care of my beloved?" "How do I sit by my beloved's side and watch her suffer?"

Robertson's assertion that divorcing a spouse with Alzheimer's is justified because she is "gone" is more than simply callous and insulting to anyone who has ever loved another. It goes to the heart of both morality and medical ethics. Physicians struggle every day to counsel families about the right time to cut off life support. Ethicists struggle to balance the impact of devastating disease with the persistence of the essential self.

To announce that someone is "gone" when she still has an emotional life — not to mention sensation in her skin, organs and tissues — is to dismiss her as a human being.

For those who find themselves at the intersection of lifetime love and overwhelming obligation, the right path is often painful and difficult to find. Robertson should have counseled this husband — and all partners grieving over the illness of their loved one — to seek psychological support, medical information, spiritual guidance and ultimately to look inside themselves and their relationship to determine the right thing to do. Instead he advised the husband of the ill woman to make sure the wife has custodial care before divorcing her and starting all over again.

He presumes too much.

Barbara Kivowitz, a consultant and psychotherapist in Boston, and Roanne Weisman, a science writer and author in Boston, are co-authors of the forthcoming book "In Sickness As In Health: Helping Couples Cope with the Complexities of Illness."

Daily express article interesting

  I found this article in the Daily express that I thought you may found interesting. If you want to see the full article please click here HOME > FEATURES > HEALTH > Home Remedies: Herbal Remedies and Natural Cures

HOME REMEDIES: HERBAL REMEDIES AND NATURAL CURES

Honey can combat more than 60 types of bacteria and has been healing wounds for 2,000 years

Thursday March 4,2010

FROM honey and peppermint to vinegar and garlic, Mother Nature has a host of cures. Adrian Lee recommends the best

Centuries ago we relied on nature for treating our wounds and warding off bugs. Now the spread of antibiotic-resistant bacteria such as MRSA is reviving interest in these ancient remedies.

“Our ancestors had their own antibiotics,” says Dr Serene Foster, a medical herbalist at Hydes Herbal Clinic in Leicester. “They didn’t know why they worked but they found many medical uses for them.

“We do need more research, because natural treatments must stand up to modern scrutiny, but it seems they boost the body’s own immune system, and we should consider using them with, or even instead of conventional drugs.”

You should consult a registered herbalist or GP before using natural remedies – especially some of the more obscure ones – but here are some of Mother Nature’s best natural anti-bacterials. Please see  article

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